The thought of meeting someone that you want to impress and possibly have a future with for the first time can be super nerve-wracking. The first date is difficult because you want to leave a good first impression so that you can get a second date. If you are one of the few who has had struggles on your first date, the following tips can help you get a second date.
Pick the right Date Spot
Most people who are new to the dating scenes are less aware of the importance of the place they choose for their first meeting with their date. People without clue often go too far to impress their date and end up choosing fancy places to go on the first date. Dinner at a fancy restaurant and movies are usually the go-to for many people for a first date. You should put a lot more thought in choosing the location rather than just picking the first place that comes to your head.
You should pick a place where you can be comfortable and are easily able to make conversation with the other person. Movies for the first date is usually not a good idea as you won’t be able to hold a conversation with the movie running in the background.
For your first date, choose a place where you will feel more comfortable. Cafes and coffee shops are usually a good place for the first date. If both of you like to drink, a local bar can also be a good choice. These places have a sort of casual environment to make you feel comfortable and are quiet enough for you to hold on a conversation without any loud noise.
There is an exception to this rule. If you know that both you and your date are movie buff then going to movies for a first date may turn out to be a great choice. If you know of a place that both you and your date can enjoy then picking such a place for your first date can be very helpful for your first date. If not then choosing a place where you and your date can feel comfortable is what you should aim for.
Dress sharp to make a good first impression is a phrase I’m sure everyone has heard by now. When you hear the term dress sharp, the image of a suit probably comes to your head. And, Yes, A suit does make you look sharp, but that does not mean that you wear a suit everywhere you go. You want to make a good first impression, but you do not need to go overboard for that.
You should dress for the occasion. The first date at the coffee shop, a suit might be a bit of an overkill, after all, you are not going in for a job interview. You are just getting to know the person on your first date. Unless your wardrobe is filled with nothing but suits, it may be better to dress down a little on a date. Even if you are rushing to your date after your work, you can tweak a couple of things that you are wearing to give a more casual vibe.
Not sure what to wear? Get a second opinion from your friends or family. In the end, what it comes down to is comfort. Try to wear something that defines your style and personality at the same time gives you confidence. You should dress to impress your date, but you should not wear anything that you are not. The worst thing that you can do is be fake in front of your date.
Prepare Conversation For the Date
You have set up the perfect location, you have picked out what to wear and you have met your date. Now comes the fun part; the talking. When the other person is someone you barely know, keeping up a conversation can be really difficult. You do not want your date to feel bored and it is necessary that you keep them engaged with an exciting conversation.
Plan your conversation ahead of time so that you are not stuck staring at your date in awkward silence. This is needed even more so for people who are not the best at starting a conversation. A good way to assure that you do not get a second date is to be boring on your first date which will come easy if you do not know what to talk about during the date.
A good conversation can show your sense of humor, intelligence and compassion. Preparing a conversation ahead of time can assure that you leave a lasting impression on your date. If you know that you do not know what to talk about on your date, go online for help. The New York Time article called ‘36 questions that lead to love’ has good questions that can be a great conversation starter.
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The 36 questions that lead to love
One of the most overlooked things when on the first date is body language. Nonverbal communication is just as important as verbal communication. Things do not always need to be said out loud. Sometimes your body language screams more than your words.
Your body language can tell whether you are interested in the date or not. Crossing your arm and not making enough eye contacts can send the signal that you may not be interested in them. Similarly, if your date is crossing their hand or feet are facing away from you, changing the current conversation will be better. Being adept at reading and showing positive body language is very helpful on your first date.
There is also the matter of physical contact with your date. People are often scared to make physical contact on their first date. You should not overdo it but the right amount of physical touch can show your interest towards the person. A hug when you meet your date will be a good way to introduce physical contact on your first date.
If you are on your first date, go with a strong mindset. Do not think beforehand that things are gonna go wrong on the date. Go with the mindset that you are going to get a second date. If you focus on the negative, it will start to chip down at your confidence and make you want to say or do random things to impress your date.
A positive mindset will help to build your confidence and everybody loves a confident man/woman. There really is no point in thinking things are going to get wrong before it even happens. Do not worry about the things that are out of your hands. Be confident and just be yourself. Confidence will help to shine your personality.
Let Them Know You’re Interested
At some point on your date, you might want to let them know that you will be interested to see them again. Possibly for a second date and somewhere in the near future. Leave the date on a positive note, give them a hug or a kiss on the cheek, and tell them you had a great time and would love to see them soon.
These days getting a first date is not that difficult of a task with all the dating apps available. What is difficult is to leave a good impression on your date, and these tips can help you in that area. If these tips help you on your date, be sure to leave a comment on how they have helped you.
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